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An Extreme Approach To Making the Greatest Breakthrough of Your Life
The visionaries of today's generation feel lost. The conventional path is not theirs to take, but the distractions make it difficult to find a path. They know that they want to be greater, but they lack the crystal clarity to begin.
I never felt as lost or directionless as I have for the past 2 years. A man who once challenged everyone to take the path less taken finds himself second guessing.
In less than a year, I go from motivated, disciplined, inspired, convicted...
...to doubtful, uncertain, confused, and lost.
There was a fire inside of me that dwindled.
I tried many ways to deal with it. To reignite the fire. To find my direction. But no matter what I tried...
...I failed.
Doubt consumed me. Life felt repetitive, small, meaningless. I was going through the motions.
Until one day, 2 weeks ago, I hit my threshold.
The Death of Greatness: Rationality
The issue I notice nowadays is how much we trust logic.
Society rewards people who are logical, rational, calculating every decision they make. Taking the "right" path. Being "responsible".
I always rebelled against that. But at some point; in my lack of awareness. I slipped.
I subscribed to it.
But why is it a problem? Is it not good to be responsible? Logical? Rational?
Isn't that what keeps the world "running"?
To a certain extent, yes.
But for:
The Visionary
The Creator
The Entrepreneur
The Artist
The Changemaker
Logic is the death of progress. Rationality is the death of greatness.
Think about it. Something only makes "sense" logically IF you already know it.
The rational decision is the known decision. It is a decision that you make knowing what the result of it will be.
If you don't know the result of an action. And you can't make an educated guess. Are you being rational? or are you taking a risk?
Logic is also subjective. Which is why there is no absolute truth that everyone agrees on.
Which means your identity filters your logic.
And that means that your logic can only produce results in relation to the current identity.
In relation to the known.
Which also means:
For the person who wants to change. At a core level. And create a new life. Transformation does not exist within the known.
So, logic, existing only within the realm of the known, is not an effective tool for change. It only produces result within the same paradigm.
Yet, being the primary mode of operation, it is what everyone relies on for decision making.
.....until they hit their threshold; if they ever do.
And wake up to what I mention above.
My Impulsive Irrationality is the Key to My Success:
When I was about 6 or 7 years old, my dad taught me how to swim. He carried me and threw me in the deep end of the pool.
I began to drown. Fighting for my life. Fighting for a breath of air. Trying my best to stay afloat.
Until I did.
And that was how I learned to swim.
When I was 18, I dropped out of college on a whim. I had no proof of concept that my business would work. But I despised the life that was waiting for me on the other side.
When I was 19, I traveled across the world with $5,000 in a little fanny pack. I survived.
By 20, I had went broke & bounced back 4 times.
Every great adventure I have been on. Every success I have achieved. Has been a result of an impulsive, irrational decision that everyone in my life stood against.
I seem to have forgotten that.
The Wake Up Call:
Here I am. At 23, back at my village, living a comfortable life. Going through the motions. Making decent money.
But deep down, I know. I settled.
I am trying to be logical. I am being responsible. I am building.
That is what I'm telling myself.
Truth is...I am afraid.
Frustration grows inside of me.
I have a few interactions. Meet a few people. And I realize that I became a shadow of who I once was.
Enough. Was. Enough.
I have a house rented with my best friend who's like a brother to me in Lebanon. We furnished it together. We have plans. I have family. I have friends. I have routines. I have a life.
I wake up on the 1st of Jan, 2025. I decide I need to change. Today.
Within 7 days, I turn my life upside down. One of the hardest decisions of my life.
I am now in Dubai. Living in a studio 10X smaller than my house in Lebanon. Paying 10X more for rent.
I am under way more pressure. Alone. With a lot on the line.
But I feel alive.
He. Is. Back.
How to Rebuild Yourself & Leap into a New Phase of Your Life
Let me start by saying that I understand you. We are much alike.
You have a big vision. You want to create a great life that fulfills you. You want to build a business on your own goddamn terms. You want to create. To be in the flow state. To experience. To explore. To adventure. To play the game of life to its totality.
Maybe your goals are a bit different; but one thing is for sure.
Mediocrity is not for you.
The traditional path is not for you.
I say this because the advice I am about to give you is extreme in nature. It is not logical. Not rational. Not right. Borderline stupid.
But it is what you need if you want to rediscover yourself.
Because right now:
You're succumbing to mediocrity
You're not feeling the fire within that you once felt
Your ego is inflated & you're not doing what needs to be done
You're overthinking, intellectualizing, and over-analyzing every single step
You're slowly deteriorating into a lesser version of yourself.
You're growing bitter towards life
So think of this as your call to adventure. You don't need to respond to the call. But if you "feel" it...you know what to do.
Do or Fucking Die:
Okay, it's not as extreme as the title suggests. You won't die. You'll only feel like you are. Because it is a metaphorical death. The death of the old for the new to be born.
The Steps:
Observe your current reality. Your daily life. Your habits. Your routines. Your friends. Your average day.
If you were to live like this for 5 more years, where would you be?
Get very clear on this so you can use it to create the necessary states of transformation. And this time, we're tapping into anger.
Who would you become if you kept going down this path? Get very clear.
Visualize it. The lesser version of you.
That is who you are becoming.
Get fed up with it. Get angry with it.
Is this the life that you want to create? Is this the man that you want to be?
Jump into the fucking unknown. Take the irrational decision.
You want to put yourself in a situation where you don't have any option BUT to succeed. You don't have the luxury of being distracted. You don't have the luxury of being mediocre.
You have no option but to succeed. You understand?
What that will look like for you in application depends on your current situation. I shared with you what it looks like for me above. Use that as reference.
And, by the way, I don't want you to do this because I am telling you to. It is extreme.
Because what you're doing is this:
putting yourself under survival pressure.
throwing yourself into the unknown.
willingly walking away from safety into potential danger.
being impulsive.
taking a massive risk that may lead to negative consequences.
Why It Works:
You're betting on yourself. For real this time, not mentally, but through actual actions.
You're affirming to your subconscious mind, through actual action, that you can do this.
You are overriding your current conditioned self by introducing urgency.
You're using your survival instincts to adapt to a new reality, learn faster, and expand into a new identity.
The path of least resistance no longer is the path of least resistance. Because there are now real, tangible consequences IF you take it.
Working hard, learning new things, adapting, and confronting your fears are now not as scary. You have to do it.
You have a real deadline with real consequences.
Extremes are not for everybody:
I want to end today's letter by saying that extremes are not for everybody.
Some people will read this & think it is the most foolish thing they've ever seen. And that's okay.
Because it is.
It is stupid. But it also is what I found to work for me after years & years of trial and error.
It brings out the best in me. I meet new versions of myself that prove to me how competent & capable I am.
It builds my confidence.
It allows me to get into a co-creating relationship with existence. It gets me in flow.
There is no good reason for you do this. It is not the logical path.
The results of it are unknown. And that...
that is why I like it.
It's time to wake up.
– Omar.